Tuesday, April 3, 2007

Collared and Cuffed

Having desired to be collared and cuffed for sometime now, I finally got up the nerve to approach my Spouse. Our relationship has taken many turns over the last 11 yrs until we are at this point. Although first and foremost He is my Spouse, He has now officially become my Dom and yes, we still have a marriage, but now it has expanded into ways and areas that can’t be fully explained unless you have gone through the transformation. I think He has agreed and readily accepts my being collared because now my mindset, headspace, heart, attitude, behavior, soul, and body are in the place of submission (not perfect) but willingly given and graciously accepted. The power exchange not absolutely complete but no longer in a state of rebellion.

So I researched and looked for pieces. I came across the link for Arabesque from another site. I first looked at it because it “specified” non-piercing jewelry. You can get the look without the pain. I showed the site to my Dom, He loved many of the pieces. But I really wanted something different and unique. Not just a day collar but something that could be dressed up for church, a formal, a night on the town, and work. But on the flip side needed something that could work with jean day on Friday at work or a stroll through the local mall. I am not into chains or link type jewelry but the site has some very nice pieces. So I did (my Dom) designed a piece but for a few reasons it just isn’t feasible at this time. However, greatly disappointed in that, but Master Bud and debadbunny sent me pics of two pieces they had in house. The one was stunning but the other floored me. I mean it was similar in design to my custom pieces and looked perfect for my needs.

I showed the two pics to my Dom without telling Him my preference. It was with great relief when He asked which one I liked the most. I selected the one shown here. I contacted Master Bud and debadbunny and began making arrangements for the pieces to be prepared and shipped and all that entails. We my Dom and I actually went in ½ for the expense because I was actually the one that requested to be collared and cuffed beyond our wedding rings. He said but since He agreed to the collaring and cuffing that I could take part out of the household account and I did. Anyway, everything seemed to just fall into place from the expense (well worth it and beyond) to the shipping to the arrival which in fact was several days earlier than I had anticipated. He was off work the day the package arrived and called me to let know it was there. I asked if He had opened it to look at them and He said. I asked why? He said these are for you and it is your place to open them and to see them first. I almost cried over the phone.

So I got off work early and called Him to tell Him so. I get home say my hello’s and look for the package that He had placed on the kitchen table. I gently opened the package and pulled the letter from it and read it to myself and then aloud to Him. I pulled out the other inserts and browsed through them and waited for Him to finish His home improvement project. Finally, He stopped and looked at me; I then opened the shimmering shiny silver box that was so nicely bound by a thin stretchy silver band tied to a sweet innocent bow. I removed the top layer of cottony material used to protect the pieces, and instantly my mouth flew opened when I first glanced at the cuffs. I was stunned into silence by sheer brilliance and “glow” of the two pieces and the connecting chain. My Dom said well, I looked up at Him and tipped the box forward for Him to look down and He said WOW, those are very pretty. Too shiny, makes you want to keep them there (in the box) forever, I said yes Big Daddy, I know. So I gently laid them aside on the couch beside me and then removed the second layer of protection and saw the collar and had to do all I could to keep from crying. I was so overwhelmed at the workmanship and obvious care that it took to hand create something so absolutely gorgeous. Something that some stranger picked from a “line up” and could wear, no would wear with gratitude for her Dom allowing her to select the pieces that would represent their relationship to no one else but the two of them. To the outside world they are just beautiful jewelry. But to us they represent the world we have chosen to live in, the lifestyle we have evolved into, and comfort that we gain from our new found and deeper trust, love, understanding, passion, and wonder that anything could be as fulfilling as D/s.

So we had planned the collaring and cuffing for Saturday night 3/24/2007 but that didn’t happen, simply because well, adult life got in the way. So we agreed on Sunday night 3/25/2007. There was no big ceremony or anything. In fact we didn’t have even just something between the two of us. He simply stated, I thought you wanted to get collared tonight. I said yes I did Big Daddy. He said, then let’s do it. I got up and got the box and handed it to Him. We sat there a few moments admiring the workmanship again and He got the pliers and put on the collar fastened the semi-permanent link and it was done. I got overwhelmed again emotionally because of the sheer magnitude of what just happened but also by the beauty of the piece and the care that went into selecting something that was so me without even really knowing me. Master Bud and debadbunny did an excellent job in choosing a piece that so fit me not just my physical dimension but my personal ones as well. Then my Dom took one cuff and put it on and then other and fastened it as well. I just sat there from the magnitude and finality of the “event”. I was always His and His alone. We have been married for 10yrs but now, to be collared to have an item that represents His “ownership” something that He and He alone can remove it amazing. It puts one in a whole new mindset. I of course don’t remove my wedding rings (although I can) but I can’t remove the collar and yes I can remove the cuffs I won’t. I have been cuffed and collared since 3/25/2007 and would not change it for the world. I have the most exquisite pieces around my neck and wrists I can’t imagine going anywhere else for my intimate pieces knowing the care, quality, and workmanship that goes it the design and selections available. There is something for everyone who has a mind to find something that simply speaks you. Thank you to my Dom for your graciousness and to both Master Bud and debadbunny for helping me, we make a desire come true. You made it happen with grace and style. Again, I thank you.